Hello There,
I'm so happy to answer this question. I hope that my answer will leave you with some substance that you can use going forward in your quest for emotional healing. Here goes!
Simply put, "Self-Worth" is the value that you have attached to yourself. Everything you say and do quietly expresses what you think or believe about yourself which is the revealing of your self-worth. Let me give you a scenario to help us to clarify this point.
Anyone who has ever begged their mate or partner to spend sometime with them has probably suffered with low self-worth. Notice I used the word 'begged' not 'asked'. It is not healthy for the spirit when one has to beg their mate or partner to stay the night, take them out, or just hang out a while. What you are expressing when you do this is that you do not believe that you are worth having someone that will willingly meet your needs. You have probably already settled for less than what you wanted and are now tying to force your true desires out on someone who may not have the capacity to fulfill them.
Once the relationship gets to this place where you're demanding more than you originally asked of this person, they will become more and more distant, more and more unresponsive, and shortly thereafter the relationship will dissipate. Once this happens, you may choose to approach recovery from an awareness of being a victim or you can go within and discover how you may have negatively contributed to this poorly defined relationship. If you choose victim hood, you will then pile your disappointment and resentment from this current situation right on top of everything else that you've been carrying around from childhood and consequently you will block your opportunity to grow and heal.
If you courageously choose to get still, quiet, and reflect upon your contribution to the failed relationship, then you'll probably be able to see that you accepted less than what you wanted from the beginning. One will ask; well, if what I wanted was a committed relationship, how did I end up seeking out, attracting, or even accepting this kind of relationship.
Well, this is where the subconscious comes in. This is where the true belief that "I'm not worth it" resides and quietly affects your judgment without you even knowing. This is where thoughts like, "I'm to fat to be loved", or "I'm not smart enough" has silently taken root and are causing you to settle. If you're not convinced that there's some negative belief laying beneath; just go within and listen closely to what you're really thinking. You'll be surprised to find that out of this painful revelation you can begin to form new ideas, beliefs, and thoughts about yourself that will eventually overtime replace old dysfunctional ones!
Needless to say, this is not a one time fix, it's a process. Past accepted images and beliefs about self will not go away without a fight and this fight will be lived out in each subsequent relationship but your awareness itself will propel you into a healthier state of being. Eventually you will begin to act in line with new affirmed beliefs and thoughts.
So to answer the question, "What are the tools for defining self-worth?" I say: Demonstration! Always study your demonstration. Are you demonstrating negative or positive self-worth? Are you transmitting high expectations based on what you know (in spirit) you have to offer or are you transmitting low expectations based on a serious miscalculation of what God has created you to be?
That being said...I want to encourage you to got within and discover your own personal truth and until our paths collide again......
Peace, Love, Life, and Harmony
NaTisha Renee
I'm so happy to answer this question. I hope that my answer will leave you with some substance that you can use going forward in your quest for emotional healing. Here goes!
Simply put, "Self-Worth" is the value that you have attached to yourself. Everything you say and do quietly expresses what you think or believe about yourself which is the revealing of your self-worth. Let me give you a scenario to help us to clarify this point.
Anyone who has ever begged their mate or partner to spend sometime with them has probably suffered with low self-worth. Notice I used the word 'begged' not 'asked'. It is not healthy for the spirit when one has to beg their mate or partner to stay the night, take them out, or just hang out a while. What you are expressing when you do this is that you do not believe that you are worth having someone that will willingly meet your needs. You have probably already settled for less than what you wanted and are now tying to force your true desires out on someone who may not have the capacity to fulfill them.
Once the relationship gets to this place where you're demanding more than you originally asked of this person, they will become more and more distant, more and more unresponsive, and shortly thereafter the relationship will dissipate. Once this happens, you may choose to approach recovery from an awareness of being a victim or you can go within and discover how you may have negatively contributed to this poorly defined relationship. If you choose victim hood, you will then pile your disappointment and resentment from this current situation right on top of everything else that you've been carrying around from childhood and consequently you will block your opportunity to grow and heal.
If you courageously choose to get still, quiet, and reflect upon your contribution to the failed relationship, then you'll probably be able to see that you accepted less than what you wanted from the beginning. One will ask; well, if what I wanted was a committed relationship, how did I end up seeking out, attracting, or even accepting this kind of relationship.
Well, this is where the subconscious comes in. This is where the true belief that "I'm not worth it" resides and quietly affects your judgment without you even knowing. This is where thoughts like, "I'm to fat to be loved", or "I'm not smart enough" has silently taken root and are causing you to settle. If you're not convinced that there's some negative belief laying beneath; just go within and listen closely to what you're really thinking. You'll be surprised to find that out of this painful revelation you can begin to form new ideas, beliefs, and thoughts about yourself that will eventually overtime replace old dysfunctional ones!
Needless to say, this is not a one time fix, it's a process. Past accepted images and beliefs about self will not go away without a fight and this fight will be lived out in each subsequent relationship but your awareness itself will propel you into a healthier state of being. Eventually you will begin to act in line with new affirmed beliefs and thoughts.
So to answer the question, "What are the tools for defining self-worth?" I say: Demonstration! Always study your demonstration. Are you demonstrating negative or positive self-worth? Are you transmitting high expectations based on what you know (in spirit) you have to offer or are you transmitting low expectations based on a serious miscalculation of what God has created you to be?
That being said...I want to encourage you to got within and discover your own personal truth and until our paths collide again......
Peace, Love, Life, and Harmony
NaTisha Renee
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